Let’s Get Real Here It is impossible to behave in accordance with our values all the time. There is often a gap between who we say we are, who we want to be, and how we act during any given day. Our behaviors reveal our character, yet sometimes we can behave in ways that are nasty, or lazy, or … [Read more...] about Becoming Fully Engaged Part 3: Facing the Truth
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Becoming Fully Engaged Part 2: Defining Purpose
What’s it really all about, anyway? One of the most powerful sources of energy is passion. When we connect to our most important values and purpose in life, our passion and energy seem boundless. The most compelling source of purpose is spiritual, when energy is derived from deeply held values … [Read more...] about Becoming Fully Engaged Part 2: Defining Purpose
Becoming Fully Engaged Part 1: Managing Energy, Not Time
Just about everyone is in a hurry these days, juggling work, family and play like so many balls in the air. We pride ourselves on our ability to multitask. We use email, cell phones, and other devices to keep in touch so that we don’t miss anything. About the only thing that seems to be slowing … [Read more...] about Becoming Fully Engaged Part 1: Managing Energy, Not Time
Optimism: Living Longer & Happier
“Success is measured by your ability to maintain enthusiasm between failures.” ― Sir Winston Churchill People who are successful in life measure high on assessments of optimistic attitudes. It would be easy to presume they are optimistic because they are successful, but there is enough research … [Read more...] about Optimism: Living Longer & Happier
How to Be Happy: 5 Key Strengths
Why do some people always seem happy, and others not? Is it really a question of life circumstances? Are they happy because their life is better, they have more luck, and they just don’t have as many worries? Or is it more a question of disposition, their nature, and character? Could it be that … [Read more...] about How to Be Happy: 5 Key Strengths
In Search of the Good Life
There are several roads to becoming happier. You can focus on increasing positive feelings, for example, by engaging in more pleasant activities. You can clear up negative emotions about the past. You can make an effort to develop an optimistic attitude. A simple step such as becoming more … [Read more...] about In Search of the Good Life
Tough Conversations: Talking Over What Really Matters
Some conversations are so difficult that we do anything to avoid them. Then, when things have really built up, we finally have no choice but to confront the issue, and the person. “We need to talk,” usually precedes an argument rather than a conversation. Why are such conversations difficult? … [Read more...] about Tough Conversations: Talking Over What Really Matters
Bargaining to Win
Without signing up for the Harvard Negotiating Project, how can you effectively bargain to get what you want? Let’s face it: Each of us negotiates every day. At work, we discuss additional compensation when we’re promoted to a new position. We plan a vacation or a move. We negotiate with our … [Read more...] about Bargaining to Win
Two Ears and Only One Mouth: How Well Do You Listen?
It has been said that there is a reason that God gave us two ears and only one mouth. Listening is such a crucial activity yet we devote so little effort to doing it well. It is essential for building healthy relationships and successful partnerships. Here are some important facts and techniques … [Read more...] about Two Ears and Only One Mouth: How Well Do You Listen?
The Art of Asking the Right Questions
Fifty percent of good communications is good listening. Asking the right questions must precede good listening. Good questions pave the way for good communications. But what makes for good questions? Is it really that hard to ask a question that will open up discussions, create learning and … [Read more...] about The Art of Asking the Right Questions